More: The genre could also be described as "alternative" or "punk". Sounds like "Connection" by Elastica, "Seether" by Veruca Salt, "Supernova" by Liz Phair, Velocity Girl, L7, etc.
Instead of "Can I even?", it might be "Can I be this?"
"...something something must be" might have been, "Is this the way this must be?"
In the early 90's (when I heard this) I was listening to WHFS a lot. The band may have been local, from the Annapolis/Baltimore/Washington D.C. area.
"Can someone please help me identify this song?"